Who Came Up with Corn Rowing Anyway?

Goal: To Learn How to Corn Row My Daughter's Hair

There are some people who were just born knowing how to braid. I'm talking about long before the days of Bo Derek and '10' and well before Kizzie in Roots...I am not one of them. I used to watch my cousins and sisters braid and they could catch the tiniest hairs. I am convinced that braiding hair and the ability to jump double dutch (of each ability I have neither) go hand and hand.

Anyway, God blessed me with a little girl. I am so grateful for her, but Lord have mercy, I did not want my baby walking around looking like nobody loved her. I was able to do cute little styles as her hair grew over time:

Adorable Right?

Simple Enough.
Oh we're getting fancy!
Classic Chic!

As it grew, as creative as I tried to get, I quickly began to realize my limitations.

PoppaWheel loved to see it in a fro. Problem was is the detangling process afterwards.

I mean the heck with it, I could just throw a hat on the child's head!

But wait, I may know how to do a zig zag part! Advanced braid-dom huh?
I hear the secret to a good braider is a good part-er.

There goes that ubiquitous fro again. Love the look. Hate the screams from combing it.

The girl rocked puffs for long you'd thought we had stock in Stay Puft lol

Au NaturaleMommaWheel got smart and paid someone to braid it.
Highly technical skill. Note the precision by which the child can golf now that her hair is laid tight!

At present day, our girl has been rocking two strand twist or some variation thereof. I also have not been able to master the twistout.

I have learned which products work for the girl's hair. I use good, organic ingredients that keep her scalp healthy and don't harm her in any way. I kicked it old school with Bergamont. I've been through Carol's Daughter, Kinky Curly, etc, but my favorite has been Moroccan Oil. It has a nice smell and it really defines her curls and gives it a nice shine. I am still on the hunt for a good detangler. I tried Taliah Waajid by the recommendation of a mom who is a self-taught corn-rower, and it's ok, but I guess I am looking for that magic product that whilest it detangles it will infuse me with the sublime ability to corn row like the masters. Aint happening!

So, being the loving, resourceful momma that I am, I took to the internets for some advice. I started out a You Tube looking at videos of how to do my baby's hair. Here are some that I tried:

• Beads Braids and Beyond is my top fave. (Started off watching her on You Tube, then subscribed to the blog via Google Reader) This is a Canadian mom who is just gorgeous and her kiddo has a great head of hair. Because there is so much of it, it gives me hope that I too can tackle detangling the BabyWheel's head.

She has me wanting to try Bee Mine products.

She even has a corn row tutorial that I have yet to try. I WILL! :)

Corn Rowing for Beginners

I was then touched by the story of a white mom who adopted her girls from Haiti and learned to care for their hair:

Braids Beads and Truth

I also love how much this momma loves her girls and cares for their hair:

Family Going Natural

I have also learned that black hair is beautiful. I mean, I've been an owner of said hair for 35 years and I've always known it, but the media would have us to believe that blond str8 hair flowing down your back is the only thing of beauty. I take it as my personal responsibility to to advocate for my daughter and help her express her outer beauty by combing her hair and styling it the best it can look. I know, I know, you're ready to play this song:

I Am Not My Hair

In all seriousness, we are about to move to suburbia where our baby may be the only brown one in the bunch in many scenarios. Different is not bad. Different is well, different. So when she hops in the pool and her hair changes texture or she can't be Cher for dress up day without a wig, I want her to feel confident. She is not her hair. She is BabyWheel.

The Little Checklist that Could

Here is an update to my summer post on the plans I had. It has been a whirlwind! Selling our home and purchasing a new one should have been the only 2 items on my list because it took up most of our time!

From purging to staging to showings we are POOPED!

Now interestingly enough, just because an item is crossed off doesn’t mean that I’ve “arrived”. It just mean that I attempted to accomplish that goal. We still have not found a church home, but we made a commitment to attend more and get to know the people around.

I am stealing this post from my cousin, Funkidivagirl.

1. Get up earlier (I planned on it, but did not consistently do it)

2. Listen more intently. Less talking (This will probably always be on my list)

3. Pray daily and not just for others and their problems (I leaned more toward praying for my own problems)

4. Go to church more and develop more intimate relationships with those that God has allowed in my path

5. Drive down the Blue Mountain Parkway (We ended up taking the most direct route)

6. Learn how to preserve peaches or strawberries (see point #1 about moving J

7. Drink green smoothies daily (does weekly count?)

8. Stop at one of the islands along the coast of SC or GA (Didn’t make it there this year)

9. Snorkel for the first time (I REALLY wanted to, but didn’t have the time)

10. Rent a bike and ride on the beach

11. Go to a winery (Got the BEST Southern Belle Wine from SC Wineries

12. Learn how to corn row my daughter’s hair (The neverending story that are my stubby fingers)

13. Go on a date with my husband at least 6 times alone this summer (see point #1. Ok, so we went out ALONE maybe 4 times)

14. Go to Dominican Republic for my 35^th birthday (No comment)

15. Make popsicles like King of Pops (Still going to do this one)

16. Focus on strength training (Gotta re-up my membership to the gym)

17. Take several water aerobics classes (see point #16)

18. Go to hooping class (see points 16 and 17 lol

19. Sell our house

20. Move into our new house

21. Teach my daughter how to play go fish and old maid

22. Take a cooking class with my husband (see point #13)

23. Take a train or bus ride up to Boston (Still want to)

24. Find things to do in the city related to music and GO (met Eric Benet. Now that was FUN!)

25. Go to Summer Solstice Celebration at Kimmel Center (Ended up leaving too late)

26. Take more pictures and learn more about my camera

27. Clean up my desk at work

28. Complain less and be more grateful

29. Take my vitamins daily

30.Slow down ( I will always be a fast tail girl)

31. Visit the co-op more (I did it once)

32. Eat more green leafy veggies ( gotta commit to this for life)

33. Go to the farmer’s market (this one too)

Now, here is my new and improved list for the next quarter or so:

1. Get up earlier

2. Listen more intently. Less talking

3. Pray daily and not just for others and their problems

4. Drive down the Blue Mountain Parkway

5. Learn how to preserve peaches or strawberries

6. Drink green smoothies daily

7. Stop at one of the islands along the coast of SC or GA

8. Snorkel for the first time

9. Learn how to corn row my daughter’s hair

10. Go on a date with my husband at least 6 times alone this summer

11. Make popsicles like King of Pops

12. Focus on strength training

13. Take several water aerobics classes

14. Go to hooping

15. Take a cooking class with my husband

16. Take a train or bus ride up to Boston

17. Find things to do in the city related to music and GO

18. Slow down

19. Visit the co-op more

20. Eat more green leafy veggies

21. Go to the farmer’s market

22. Decorate our new home one room at a time

23. Plan a garden

24. Finish at least 10 books

25. Blog More (because I am on FB, I need to blog on purpose)

26. Purposefully menu plan

27. Learn how to dress

28. Plan a fabulous housewarming party

29. Participate more in the photobugs challenges

30. Save at least 1k

31. Plan for Christmas shopping

32. Learn how to use coupons and other online specials

33. Have a couples night monthly

34.Be more crafty (sewing, creating home décor items)

35. Keep in touch with family more

33 Things I'd Love to Do This Summer

I am stealing this post from my cousin, Funkydivagirl.

1. Get up earlier

2. Listen more intently. Less talking

3. Pray daily and not just for others and their problems

4. Go to church more and develop more intimate relationships with those that God has allowed in my path

5. Drive down the Blue Mountain Parkway

6. Learn how to preserve peaches or strawberries

7. Drink green smoothies daily

8. Stop at one of the islands along the coast of SC or GA

9. Snorkel for the first time

10. Rent a bike and ride on the beach

11. Go to a winery

12. Learn how to corn row my daughter’s hair

13. Go on a date with my husband at least 6 times alone this summer

14. Go to Dominican Republic for my 35^th birthday

15. Make popsicles like King of Pops

16. Focus on strength training

17. Take several water aerobics classes

18. Go to hooping

19. Sell our house

20. Move into our new house

21. Teach my daughter how to play go fish and old maid

22. Take a cooking class with my husband

23. Take a train or bus ride up to Boston

24. Find things to do in the city related to music and GO

25. Go to Summer Solstice Celebration at Kimmel Center

26. Take more pictures and learn more about my camera

27. Clean up my desk at work

28. Complain less and be more grateful

29. Take my vitamins daily

30.Slow down

31. Visit the co-op more

32. Eat more green leafy veggies

33. Go to the farmer’s market

BabyWheel, She Flips, She Turns

I promised myself that I was not going to be the kind of mom who has my child's day filled by the time she was 5. A kid has to have time to be a kid. No schedules, no running around, etc. There was one thing that I knew the girl would love to do....and that's FLIP AROUND! Or so I thought!

The local recreation center offered gymnastics or little kid tumbling for several weeks in Feb-April, so we jumped at the chance to do it.

BabyWheel decided that she liked to tumble--fair enough, but she refused to get on the trampoline. She said it was too scary. I think it was because there were too many kids on there at one time. If there is one thing about my child that I've learned over the past few years, it's that she does play well with others, but it has to be on her terms. She can't be forced into fun or coerced into clowning. It has to be her way or the highway.

Imagine the glee when I saw my little toddler walking into her first organized class. It was too cool. Too bad she had other plans. I do have pics to prove it, but that comes later. Back to the whole activity and kids thing...

The one thing I want to pass along to my daughter from a mother's perspective is a love for God and how much He loves her right back. I try to show that in the grace I show her when she cuts the fool and is just being, well...3. I show her how much Mommy loves Daddy by cooking for him after a long day of work Or surprising him with a fun birthday night away for the two of us. Activities are all well and good, and the memories from the fun we have will be lasting, but it is her character that counts, godly character that exudes God's hand in her life. A tumble or two here and there is fun, but what we do for Christ will last.

Here are some pics to prove no children were harmed in the typing of this message :)

--MommaWheel

The Consummate Homemaker

I wish I were. :)

During the blizzard(s) of 2010 here in Philly, I took a liking to cooking and baking. I had the time to actually not just be all Rachel Ray in the kitchen and grab the EVOO on the run, but really talk to Alayna about what I was cooking and laugh and joke around.

Since the snow came around Valentine's Day this year, and I had already planned on making gifts for work, I was excited to know that I could really take my time and also enlist the assistance of my culinary genius, daughter, BabyWheel.

We decided to make these.

Then we started by getting the dough ready:

Then we got the templates together for the cute little boxes. They said, "a little pie for the apple of my eye".

Then we filled the dough with apple pie.

Last, we pulled them out of the oven. YUMMY!

That Whole Cemetery Thing

Remember in the news when the group of gravediggers were digging up and reselling plots?

I wrote this on the day that it happened:

"I found that the Burr Oak cemetary scandal effects me a lot more than I'd like it to. My mother is buried there. A lot of feelings popped up when I heard the news about the terrible acts that the workers committed. I went on google earth to see the location, and sure enough, the are gaping holes, indicating that the digging process is underway, trying to identify the remains of the loved ones who have been disturbed. I went right back to 8 years old in my head, back when she died....I remembered her death, her funeral, the procession, every little detail...even the song in my head that I hummed to comfort myself, Alvin and the Chipmunks.

Funny, when her birthday comes, I remember her taking me to Disney and laughing and smiling with my dad. When someone potentially unearths her, I remember the drama of the circumstances surrounding her death, how my dad plummeted into a life of alcoholism, losing his young, beautiful bride to a heart attack before his very eyes. I remember my dad carrying my mom out of the house as she gasped for air and as dad threw me the car keys, hoping I would open the door. Everything in me wanted to open that car door, but my hands were trembling. Dad smiled and opened the door with one hand as he gently placed my mom in the front seat. In retrospect, the feces I smelled was my mother's last pass at life, but as we drove just a few blocks, we all pleaded for her to "come on". I remember the hazard lights on my dad's Oldsmobile as he whizzed through traffic to get to the hospital. I remember the chaos that ensued as we pulled up and how my 4 y/o sister and I were put in a private room so we couldn't see the paddles, the pleading of my father, the tears....I saw it all, even when they thought I didn't.

I shouldn't have to be forced to remember these events. Those memories were in the recesses of my mind, there with every other painful thing that has happened in my life. I have peace knowing that my mom is with God.

I pray for accountability for all parties involved. Since there are still forensic and digs going on, all familes are in a holding pattern, waiting for confirmation. I hope my mom is right where we left her 25 years ago. "

Thank God, she is where we left her. *Confirmed November, 09*

What a beautiful song

No Greater Love
You loved me when I was so unlovely
You sought me when I was lost
You showed me how much You really loved me
When You bought me at the highest cost

There's no greater love than this
There's no greater love than this
That a man would give his life for a friend
There's no higher sacrifice
Than a man would give his life
You have paid the highest price for me

You chose me when I was so unworthy
You cleansed me with Your own blood
You clothed me with righteousness and mercy
And You crowned me with Your steadfast love

http://www.imeem.com/pabslike/music/ENgUE-of/don-moen-no-greater-love/